In the
loop
of
Better
Tomorrow
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[Sabeer Fayyaz]
The wishes that lie within our hearts and the efforts we put in to bring them into reality is something that we all feel at one time or another in our lives. It is fairly okay to keep those wishes in the pipeline and thrive with our efforts to make them real and the part of our life, however, the question of the hour which will be discussed in this article is about whether we skip the precious moments of our lives while being stuck in the loop of "better tomorrow"?
From going through the day-to-day tasks or to achieving the bigger milestones in life, we are struggling and circling around for the completion of the tasks and activities and not living them fully, that is what I have felt when discussed with the people. [Exceptions are always there when I say "we" it means majority not all.]
The point and the objectives are to complete the task/activity and get it over with, to begin with, another. Actually, that is where the problem lies. People often want to put their successes in the form of trophies and highlight them like in the old days the hunters used to display their hunt with all their might to show their power. In this digital era, most things have become superficial and a norm to please, we do it and we do not mean it at all.
There are a couple of issues with this kind of approach that can be highlighted at this point in time, which is giving priority to the quantity rather than the quality. When we aim for more, mostly the quality will get to be compromised in such circumstances.
Let us take an example of a stock trader when he wants to buy more quantity of stock within his budget he has to compromise on the quality of the stock, as the premium stocks such as Google, Facebook, or Amazon won't be cheap as any other Tom, Dick, or Harry stock.
The basic concept which needs to be iterated to ourselves is to remind ourselves of the value of quality of a single moment, the moment which has just passed, and the thought to ponder if we have taken enough of that moment or had we lost it in the loop of better tomorrow.
A Backward Walk
In life, there are moments of happiness followed by grief, feelings of being lost followed by hope. No emotion is constant and nothing is forever. We have limited time yet infinite plans, some of them are achieved whereas struggle is for all. If we acknowledge a simple point in life that in a finite amount of time we should make a finite amount of goals and a finite amount of people to live this finite life with.
Mostly we rate success with how fast we are moving in the forward direction. In short, success is calculated by how fast we have reached forward in life. Everyone is running in a self-created race.
A Mathematical Analogy about Life
The ones who have an interest in Mathematics would second that the graph of the quadratic equation(
ax2 + bx + c = 0) sums up our life perfectly, it's called
Parabola. If you see this graph, it shows that it's constantly on a move, just like our life and it keeps on moving through the positive and negative fields and never stops. We can learn from it to be no a move in life no matter how hard things get, no matter how difficult times we stumble upon, things will change like the curve of a Parabola.
I want to share an idea, a different perspective to life in which success does not matter in moving forward, backward, or even staying still, everyone has a unique amount of time in life which makes their life journey completely unique just like our fingerprints.
Introspecting Life
Comparing your life journey to someone else's is a classical example of naiveness. One can not be more naive than that to make such comparisons. Similarly, accounting success in materialistic quantities is of no success at all. So to figure out what success is all about we can have a backward walk.
At this moment wherever you are in your journey of life, let's walk backward and think through the thick and thin you have faced in life, good or bad, easy or hard whatever the circumstances were, you had an option a choice to make at that interval of time.
If you are un-happy from the heart no matter how much or what you own, you are not successful, the success lies in the happiness and not the ordinary happiness, the happiness where your heart blushes - that is what you can call a success and it can not be measured by me, or anyone else, you are the sole evaluator of your own success.
Just take this moment and give yourself 10-15 minutes and have a backward walk to get the answers you are seeking, to have a correction to the perspective about life, and do your best by exploring your new energized self.
a message of Love, Peace, and Hope.
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Apology - Maazrat(Urdu)
Introduction
One of the hardest things most of us have to go through is the admission of our own mistakes. We stand upright and hold firm to our mistakes despite knowing on the occasions when we are wrong. By defending our wrongdoings we tend to dig deep into the mess of this ego and superficial point in life where we can not be wrong and hence there comes a problem in life.
Examples
There are various scenarios in life where one opinion prevails over the other in terms of its validity towards correctness and the other one needs rectification to be correct, the problem arises when you are the latter and as discussed above you have developed a sense of moral high ground where you can not be wrong so someone else has to - who is actually correct.
Now is the time to make an apology which you have been resisting for a long.
The whole purpose of writing this to enlighten ourselves about the fact that we all are humans and we can make mistakes.
Mistakes are the learning curves of life, and it makes life beautiful when rectified. An apology can change everything, I would call apology an incredible magical spell that is cast and it works only if it is truly from the heart. Believe me, not every spell of apology works because not every apology is from the heart.
"to err is to humans, to forgive divine"
-Alexander Pope
Conclusion
If we can collectively look within both versions of ourselves the one with pre-apology scenario and the other with a post-apology scenario, in the latter deep down our hearts are in peace and our souls lighter than air, without any burden, grudges because the ones who know, they know to apologize when wrong.
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